“Happiness is a gift and the trick is not to expect it, but to delight in it when it comes.”
-Charles Dickens from Nicholas Nickleby
Happiness can be elusive. The moment we come to expect it, it seems to slip from our grasp. But if we allow it to surprise us with its presence, its all the more delightful.
Happiness has a strong relationship with gratitude. When we feel entitlement towards joy, we tend to experience frustration at its absence. If, however, we allow happiness to come to us and express appreciation for what it brings, happiness is actually likely to stick around for longer. It tends to be that gratitude leads to happiness (as opposed to happiness leading to gratitude).
We can think of happiness as a relative who pops buy for visits without calling ahead. A warm welcome (as opposed to an inquiry about where they’ve been) will make them more likely to visit again soon.